{"id":1854,"date":"2020-09-23T12:18:00","date_gmt":"2020-09-23T19:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/?p=1854"},"modified":"2023-01-08T17:32:26","modified_gmt":"2023-01-09T01:32:26","slug":"sibling-rivalry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/sibling-rivalry\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with Sibling Rivalry"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-two-or-more-children-often-first-experience-the-world-of-i-m-not-the-only-one-in-the-world-through-a-sibling-children-often-vie-for-parents-love-and-attention-so-to-help-ease-the-realization-that-others-count-too\">Two or more children often first experience the world of &#8220;I&#8217;m not the only one in the world?&#8221; through a sibling. Children often vie for parents&#8217; love and attention, so to help ease the realization that others count, too:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-first-and-foremost-do-not-play-favorites\">First and foremost, do not play favorites<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-consciously-pay-attention-to-each-child\">consciously pay attention to each child;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-spend-separate-quality-time-with-each-child\">spend separate, quality time with each child;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-protect-each-child-equally-and-don-t-always-rescue-a-younger-child-from-an-older-sibling-so-don-t-let-the-younger-child-take-the-older-child-s-toys-and\">protect each child equally and don&#8217;t always &#8220;rescue&#8221; a younger child from an older sibling (so don&#8217;t let the younger child take the older child&#8217;s toys); and<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-lose-the-labels-the-smart-one-the-easy-one-the-athletic-one-or-the-wild-child-focus-on-positive-attributes-such-teamwork-or-kindness-so-siblings-can-begin-to-help-each-other-instead-of-competing-for-their-parents-approval\">lose the labels \u2013 the smart one, the easy one, the athletic one or the wild child \u2013 focus on positive attributes, such teamwork or kindness, so siblings can begin to help each other instead of competing for their parents\u2019 approval.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-give-each-child-a-toy-or-possession-that-they-don-t-have-to-share\">Give each child a toy or possession that they don&#8217;t have to share;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-listen-and-celebrate-each-child-s-differences-let-each-know-they-are-special-in-their-own-way\">listen and celebrate each child\u2019s differences: &nbsp;let each know they are special in their own way;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-do-not-dismiss-or-suppress-your-children-s-resentment-or-angry-feelings\">do not dismiss or suppress your children\u2019s resentment or angry feelings;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-whenever-possible-let-siblings-settle-their-own-differences\">whenever possible, let siblings settle their own differences.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-style-default\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"940\" height=\"788\" src=\"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sibling-rivalry.jpg\" data-orig-src=\"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sibling-rivalry.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"lazyload wp-image-1855\" srcset=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns%3D%27http%3A%2F%2Fwww.w3.org%2F2000%2Fsvg%27%20width%3D%27940%27%20height%3D%27788%27%20viewBox%3D%270%200%20940%20788%27%3E%3Crect%20width%3D%27940%27%20height%3D%27788%27%20fill-opacity%3D%220%22%2F%3E%3C%2Fsvg%3E\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sibling-rivalry-300x251.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sibling-rivalry-768x644.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sibling-rivalry.jpg 940w\" data-sizes=\"auto\" data-orig-sizes=\"(max-width: 940px) 100vw, 940px\" \/><figcaption>Dealing with Sibling Rivalry <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-all-family-members-need-to-work-together-parents-and-children-and-any-others-who-live-in-the-home-and-have-a-stake-in-decisions-affecting-the-daily-life-of-the-family-should-take-part-to-make-your-family-meetings-successful-establish-some-general-rules-for-example\"><strong>All family members need to work together:<\/strong> &nbsp;parents and children and any others who live in the home and have a stake in decisions affecting the daily life of the family should take part. &nbsp;To make your family meetings successful, establish some general rules, for example:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Everyone gets a chance to talk<\/li><li>One person talks at a time and does not get interrupted<\/li><li>Okay to say what you feel<\/li><li>No one&nbsp;<em>has<\/em>&nbsp;to talk<\/li><li>Everyone has to listen<\/li><li>No one puts anyone else down<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-develop-a-plan-for-evenly-distributing-coveted-privileges\">Develop a plan for evenly distributing coveted privileges.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Who gets to ride \u201cshotgun\u201d in the car? (It\u2019s amazing how many teenagers and young adult siblings still make this an important issue.)<\/li><li>Who gets to push the button in the elevator?<\/li><li>Who gets to choose where to go to eat lunch or dinner?<\/li><li>Who gets to choose the television show?<\/li><li>Who does what chores (age appropriate) weekly or monthly? Etc.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-more-importantly-sibling-rivalry-is-an-ever-evolving-process-being-proactive-with-some-of-these-parenting-techniques-can-give-your-children-resources-that-will-serve-them-later-in-life\">More importantly, sibling rivalry is an ever-evolving process.&nbsp; Being proactive with some of these parenting techniques can give your children resources that will serve them later in life.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Related links: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/gratitude-and-giving-thanks\/\">Gratitude Giving Thanks<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Two or more children often first experience the world of  [&#8230;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1855,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1854","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-entertainment"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1854","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1854"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1854\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3407,"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1854\/revisions\/3407"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1855"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1854"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1854"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.destinationsitters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1854"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}